The Problem with Bullying
Sutter Center for Psychiatry
Playground squabbles are a part of growing up, but habitual bullying falls into a different category. Children who bully -- or those who are bullied -- may develop unhealthy behaviors that have immediate and long-term consequences.
Bullying has varying degrees and takes different forms, including excessive teasing, name calling, pushing, hitting, stealing or circulating hurtful images or rumors.
In many cases, the aggressors and victims of school-aged bullying outgrow and overcome the reasons for or effects of these intimidation antics. Regardless, parents should be aware of the signs of bullying to address any problems that could worsen.
Bullying causes emotional stress and/or physical harm to the one being provoked. Those at risk for being bullied are typically shy children with few or no friends. Being bullied adds another obstacle to the stress of growing up and going to school. Ongoing harassment decreases self-esteem and magnifies existing challenges like insecurity or being unpopular.
Signs of a child who is a victim of bullying could include
- depression or withdrawal
- bruises or other unexplained injuries
- fear of going to school
- solemn change in behavior when it’s time to go to school
Those who bully may be popular and have many friends. Or, they may be more of an outsider with just a few friends who join together to pick on easier targets. Reasons for bullying often stem from issues like an unstable home life, seeing a family member who bullies, or frustration over being bullied by others.
Children who bully others often
- lack respect for authority
- seek trouble and don’t seem to care about consequences
- make fun of classmates or family in cruel ways
Teachers and school staff should be well versed in spotting symptoms of bullying, but their attention and efforts are often divided among large groups. If you suspect bullying, share your concern with the school and ask them to keep an eye on your child.
Nurturing and strong relationships with family can help children deal with minor bouts of bullying, but continued tormenting puts children at risk for behavioral issues later in life. For further information, ask your child’s school or doctor for resources. You may also call the Sutter Center for Psychiatry at (916) 386-3000.